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The Pansterone, Pregnenolone/ Dhea is fairly good to apply topically to combat depression, at least for a while. If your situation is more dramatic, I would consider taking something like St. John's Wort or a medication that your doc recommends.I have the idealabs B vitamin complex and fat solubles. I was trying to simplify and I thought these made sense. I don't know what kind of effect it has when I'm not eating properly though, or if it's even safe.
The Pansterone, Pregnenolone/ Dhea is fairly good to apply topically to combat depression, at least for a while. If your situation is more dramatic, I would consider taking something like St. John's Wort or a medication that your doc recommends.
I know the gutwrenching anxiety you're talking about and trust me it can and will pass.
So many times I thought it was unbearable and I couldn't keep going only for glimmers of hope to shine through.
If you're only able to tolerate limited calories then I don't believe supplements are a good idea. Especially the idea labs b complex - the b1 will put pressure on your magnesium levels and active b2 / b6 can be a problem - they're activated by the body with available resources as needed.
Do you have a particularly restrictive diet atm?
Foods you enjoy are really important right now to help digestion. Maybe find a light hearted or happy tv series to watch and slowly try and sort your sleep out so as to get some daytime light in your eyes.
See if the sun feels good on your torso - if it feels good it'll be the absolute best thing for you right now. Sun on front and back until it stops feeling good.
It'll pass, trust me.
I can relate in lots of ways to your situation and I know you have physiology going against you to make things feel far more extreme - equilibrium can ALWAYS be restored - just be kind to yourself and your body will slowly help you.
The best supp for you.
Stop moaning and be a man, if you like her go get her back.
I appreciate the motivation, but at the same time you've labeled me as a not a real man, and I'm already in the habit of feeling that way about myself. It just reinforces a negative depiction that I've been fighting and a sense that I'm not good enough, and now I have to hear someone else tell me it, whether that's true or not. What you're saying isn't helpful to most people. And if your only response is something like "Well maybe you aren't one", then let's be real - Do you actually mean to help me and see where I'm coming from or even read the full post? Getting her back is one thing, but if I don't I still have to deal with the reality. Everyone has different strengths. I admit that the end of romantic relationships are a personal weakness.
I appreciate the motivation, but at the same time you've labeled me as a not a real man, and I'm already in the habit of feeling that way about myself. It just reinforces a negative depiction that I've been fighting and a sense that I'm not good enough, and now I have to hear someone else tell me it, whether that's true or not. What you're saying isn't helpful to most people. And if your only response is something like "Well maybe you aren't one", then let's be real - Do you actually mean to help me and see where I'm coming from or even read the full post? Getting her back is one thing, but if I don't I still have to deal with the reality. Everyone has different strengths. I admit that the end of romantic relationships are a personal weakness.
That post your replying to was disgraceful and the poster is confused about men and women demonstrated by the post and so does the culture we come from, its a huge problem. Real men do not post things telling another man to stop moaning over women. History knows that women can and absolutely destroy men, mostly the manliest of men, men go through all kinds of pain, near death and death for women.
I recommend reading the metaphysics of sex by Julius Evola, I may be enlightening for you.
That post your replying to was disgraceful and the poster is confused about men and women demonstrated by the post and so does the culture we come from, its a huge problem. Real men do not post things telling another man to stop moaning over women. History knows that women can and absolutely destroy men, mostly the manliest of men, men go through all kinds of pain, near death and death for women.
I recommend reading the metaphysics of sex by Julius Evola, I may be enlightening for you.
To add - Ashoka, I can tell you're smart by the way you write. You know very well what I meant by 'be a man.' If anything it is a back-handed compliment as I wouldn't write that if I didn't think it were in you to do such a thing, right? For whatever that is worth coming from a random person on a forum.
"I admit that the end of romantic relationships are a personal weakness."
That's true for everyone. And all men are born with that struggle of "being a man" too.
And Benyamin, I don't doubt that women can have that affect! I don't need Evola to tell me that.
I ended a relationship over four months ago and I feel like it was an awful mistake, but I know it’s too late to go back. I actually broke her trust by trying that already before working through my own issues. My ex is devastatingly beautiful and we had so much in common. I’m completely destroyed. All I’ve done since I ended it is dig myself deeper into a place I can’t see out of. And on top of it all I deal with PFS and Lyme disease symptoms. But losing this relationship is worse than those things to me.
I don’t want to scare anyone who has problems similar to mine if they end up reading this. I was actually feeling significantly better before this relationship, and really felt I was on a good path. Maybe on the route to being fully better (hence being reading to be in a relationship). But I still suffered from depression and dissatisfaction in the relationship that I didn’t understand and chose to end it in most likely very poor judgement.
I’ve lost probably thirty pounds since this started, and I was already underweight. I went from over 150lbs to 120lbs. I’m sure this is damaging my health in ways unknown to me, staying in a stressed, malnourished state for this long. I just don’t know how to bounce back. I wake up in physical and emotional pain every morning. I think about her with someone else. Months later and I can’t look at another woman and I have no motivation to act. I can’t sleep normal hours and no one really knows how to help me or what to tell me, and I don’t have the answers. I’ve never felt more lost.. Not even after illness did I feel this lost. I always believed I could recover what was lost after illness. This cannot be recovered because it is true loss, and one I brought upon myself out of confusion.
This is basically exactly what I was going to say.Date lots of other women. Lots. If your ex sees you with one she might get jealous. If she doesn't, you won't care anyway because you'll be dating lots of other women. Lots. New relationships can give you a different perspective on things. Chatting, dating and flirting is fun play.
Mirtazapine, Lisuride, Tianeptine, Cyproheptadine, Aspirin, Androsterone, Adamantane, 5α-DHP if you're in a deep hole. Not all together though obviously
I think many have been devastated after relationships end. You need to put it into perspective.
Many feel things such as "I will never meet someone as great", "I will never love like this again", or "what is the point in trying again," etc. But many of us, now many years later, find ourselves married to our soulmate with the most amazing children.
I.e it will get better again, it may take some time though.
Chin up, you have your whole life to look forward to. Life is a relatively short experience, make the most of it.
Dopamine. Your body creates a ton of it when you are in love, but that system virtually shuts down when you break up. There are many supplements like Sam-E that boost your body''s production of dopamine. Give it a shot.
Date lots of other women. Lots. If your ex sees you with one she might get jealous. If she doesn't, you won't care anyway because you'll be dating lots of other women. Lots. New relationships can give you a different perspective on things. Chatting, dating and flirting is fun play.
Mirtazapine, Lisuride, Tianeptine, Cyproheptadine, Aspirin, Androsterone, Adamantane, 5α-DHP if you're in a deep hole. Not all together though obviously
This is basically exactly what I was going to say.
And mirtazapine might be perfect for him right now given the weight loss and depression.
@Ashoka You will also have good and bad days & it's worth being aware that the bad days can sneak up on you when you think you're moving on.
Just knowing it happens that way can help too. Hopefully the good days will start outnumbering the bad ones soon.