I Have No Problem Getting Erections, But Often Lose Them Mid-sex. Why And What Can I Do?

[BruceLee]

I get a lot of erections. Like teenager-level amounts (only since Peating). When I'm hanging out out with a girl I'll have an erection almost like half the time haha. I get random boners all the time. But, recently, I keep losing it during sex. I can't seem to last more than a minute or so before just losing my boner. What could be causing this?

 

[Matt1951]

Ask your partner for help, it should be a fun problem to overcome together.

 

[goodandevil]

I get a lot of erections. Like teenager-level amounts (only since Peating). When I'm hanging out out with a girl I'll have an erection almost like half the time haha. I get random boners all the time. But, recently, I keep losing it during sex. I can't seem to last more than a minute or so before just losing my boner. What could be causing this?

Could be pelvic floor problems.

 

[sm1693]

All substances put on the skin are almost immediately pulled into blood stream circulation. If you're using a condom, it's most likely contaminated with a substance that is destroying your androgen production.

 

[ecstatichamster]

Avoid masturbation porn and fantasy. Things will come back.

Being on top helps. Also sex on an empty stomach helps.

 

[Zachs]

Do you also get easily overheated and/or feel flushed?

Most likely it's a cardiovascular issue.

 

[Peata]

Are you overweight?

 

[DKayJoe]

>>>>Possibly TMI in a possibly TMI thread below<<<<

I actually have this problem quite often at the moment, not sure about root cause/solutions yet (Although it is less common in good sleep/low stress for me such as when I have a good few days off of work). I don't use condoms so this definitely isn't the issue for me. For me it tends to happen often if I'm not that fluid switching positions and there's a pause in the activity, it also happens almost always when my girl goes the oral route which makes me feel bad as she's good at it.

If you're having trouble getting past it during your session then all I can say is don't sweat it, if I lose mid-way through the session I don't think about it and play around for 5 minutes focusing on what I'm playing with (I tend to leave her vaginal area alone for a while and focus on something else like back, breasts, neck etc) next thing I know I'm hard as a rock again and ready to rumble. The first few times I stressed it thinking in my head "Get hard, get hard, get hard" and it is very counter-productive in my opinion.

How long do you last generally? I find I can go for anywhere between an hour to an hour and a half currently although I'd change that for constant wood any day of the week (Providing it doesn't turn me into a 2 minute man heh).

 

[mujuro]

Have you considered there may be a psychological element to this? I'm not simply talking about anxiety. Things can get much more complex than just performance anxiety.

 

[tca300]

Avoid masturbation porn and fantasy. Things will come back.

Being on top helps. Also sex on an empty stomach helps.

I agree with not watching porn. There are some good studies about how men who watch porn regularly can developed erectile dysfunction. Maybe IF your looking at porn regularly, you should stop. I think the mechanism behind this is you get use to seeing the most explicit sex acts through the duration of masturbation and then when you have sex, for a lot of it you might be staring at the bed sheets or the ceiling.... Not very stimulating. But if you stop porn, after a while your system will rewire itself and it shouldn't be a problem... Provided your hormones are in check.

 

[Endocrinologist]

It's probably venous leakage.

 

[FredSonoma]

It's probably venous leakage.

What would cause this? What would fix it?

 

[DaveFoster]

You could be going too hard in the paint before getting your wall powerwashed, if you n'am sayin'.

 

[schultz]

You could be going too hard in the paint before getting your wall powerwashed, if you n'am sayin'.

I actually don't know what you're saying...

 

[DaveFoster]

I actually don't know what you're saying...

Me neither. It sounded good when I said it.

Maybe try popping a caffeine pill before hand, or some DHEA on thy penis. Works for me.

 

[ecstatichamster]

Avoiding porn and masturbatiin helps a great deal. Focusing on sensation helps a great deal. A lot of naked cuddling helps a lot. Builds oxytocin. Avoiding ejaculation and aiming for time spent penis in vagina helps.

 

[redlight]

try to get a good blood panel (estradiol ultrasensitive)

 

[Pet Peeve]

Find more attractive partners?

 

[XPlus]

To me, it sounds like you're constantly exhausted and run out of glucose quickly.
Rest and controlling stress hormones could help.

 

[amethyst]

Someone mentioned performance anxiety. Ok, this is from a female perspective, but it could be a stress/anxiety issue- that once you are engaged in sexual intimacy, the idea of having to perform overtakes you and that becomes more of your focus, rather than just focusing on the physical/emotional sensations that you are feeling, whilst engaged with your partner. Approach it a different way.Really tune into the physical sensations of how you feeling and how your partner is feeling, really tune into enjoying your partners body and your own bodily sensations, without feeling the need to "accomplish" something. Enjoy the moment. Like you are enjoying a delicious and savory meal This will lead to a more satisfying and pleasurable experience with your partner. Slowing it down accomplishes a lot and leads to a more deepening communication. And isn't that what sex is really supposed to be about? Communicating on a deeper level? Tantric sex has that approach which might be something for you to look into.