orewashin
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If a person prefers the boredom of solitude, should that person nevertheless force themselves to interact with others in an effort to become more mentally healthy in the long run?
In other words, should a person force themselves out of isolation although it would be stressful to do that?
I recall RP saying that isolation is bad many times but I don't recall him talking about people who are "adapted to isolation" and what they should do.
Boredom is something I'm used to, so I don't feel aversion to it or a need to get out of it. I don't enjoy new or unpredictable things because I have no drive to pursue them. They are likely to make me feel uncomfortable because I'm more used to the boredom.
Since it becomes a choice between uncomfortable boredom, and anything between comfortable stimulation and very uncomfortable stimulation, my natural tendency is to be holed up in my room, since at least nothing greatly upsetting will happen. And if I'm a person who isn't well-liked, then there is very little comfort in social situations in addition to the discomfort.
It's quite possible that my life is already over. I've been living like this for years. I watched anime in an attempt to increase "stimulation tolerance" for over a year despite not liking it, but here I am. I don't even enjoy watching movies with my family, I find it painful. When I'm around people, they ask me if something is wrong, because I don't like being around people.
Maybe I need to torture myself and force myself to go out, but it'll make people think I'm weird if I force myself to do something I don't even like. Whatever, I guess. It's between that and continually degenerating from boredom.
In other words, should a person force themselves out of isolation although it would be stressful to do that?
I recall RP saying that isolation is bad many times but I don't recall him talking about people who are "adapted to isolation" and what they should do.
Boredom is something I'm used to, so I don't feel aversion to it or a need to get out of it. I don't enjoy new or unpredictable things because I have no drive to pursue them. They are likely to make me feel uncomfortable because I'm more used to the boredom.
Since it becomes a choice between uncomfortable boredom, and anything between comfortable stimulation and very uncomfortable stimulation, my natural tendency is to be holed up in my room, since at least nothing greatly upsetting will happen. And if I'm a person who isn't well-liked, then there is very little comfort in social situations in addition to the discomfort.
It's quite possible that my life is already over. I've been living like this for years. I watched anime in an attempt to increase "stimulation tolerance" for over a year despite not liking it, but here I am. I don't even enjoy watching movies with my family, I find it painful. When I'm around people, they ask me if something is wrong, because I don't like being around people.
Maybe I need to torture myself and force myself to go out, but it'll make people think I'm weird if I force myself to do something I don't even like. Whatever, I guess. It's between that and continually degenerating from boredom.