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i_nomad
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No. You weren’t pointing it out. You were projecting your one-sided interpretation of your personal relationship issues onto somebody else without waiting for a response to your own questions…. let alone reading the responses OP already gave that very clearly showed she and her husband are actually fine - she merely had a minor curiosity she wanted to better understand about her husband.That's good. Just figured it was worth pointing out!
Your story is a perfect example of how a woman isn’t required to understand a man, let alone to teach him how he is behaving incorrectly. This mentality, even if not stated explicitly, is harmful. The fact that you referred to your husband as it was “like” talking down a child is telling enough. I get the impression that if I spoke to your husband I’d get a significantly different side to this story and the history behind it. Not that I care… isn’t my business.
Balance between men and women requires a balance between the nature of each group and that of our individuality. And a constant battle against the inaccurate, and mostly negative, portrayal of each in popular culture. It requires empathy and communication. It never includes “this IS the problem, and thus, this IS the solution”…especially coming from one group or individual.
It’s never that simple, it’s always more nuanced… and it will be a constant struggle until we die (not dye, as in hair dye).
I applaud OP for staying grounded and for her empathetic curiosity. Far better than allowing the influence of others to determine how she ought to think about her husband… and then pushing that nonsense onto others.
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